I’m tired of people saying, “here’s how I prep for the year” and other people saying, “that’s not necessary, just do this.” Last time I looked in the mirror, I didn’t see you, I saw me. (And wasn’t pleased, per one of my three words for 2010).
So, instead of THE way to succeed in 2011, here are 8 ways that might help you. And you can list the other 1,547,296,133 ways in the comments.
- Write three words that you want to use as guiding words for the year. (How Chris Brogan does three words and my three words for 2010).
- Write a list of 100 goals you want to do in 2010 (Marc Pitman can send you this exercise.)
- Write one word for the year.
- Write a list of SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound) (Here’s a SMART goals worksheet)
- Pick a photo for the year, an image that reminds you of what matters or what direction you are going. A picture of a place you are dreaming or a relationship you want to mend.
- Describe how you want to be known in five years. Then identify specific actions to learn that will take you toward that reputation.
- Forget years. We can get paralyzed by thinking about annual goals and all that. So think about the next three hours. What’s one roadblock you can remove in the next three hours?
- Don’t set goals at all. Leo Babauta talks about finding something you are passionate about and then doing it. (The best goal is no goal).
But here’s the secret of these 8 ways. All of them are choosing to be intentional.
A disciple is a person who chooses to allow the life and teaching of someone to shape his/her own life. There can be an invitation from the teacher or a request from the disciple. (Apprentice is one of our best other words for this, a person working with a master.)
Maybe you want to help other people take your business and replicate it. Maybe you want to help other people understand how to be an entrepreneur like you, like you learned from someone else. Maybe you want to help people understand more about following Jesus.
You can’t do this with everyone in your life. It takes too much time to explain how all the time (See How: the missing piece in training.) However, there are a handful of people that you want to do everything possible to help grow.
Here are 8 simple ways to make a disciple.
1. Invite people who you see have potential, whether they see it or not.
2. Spend lots of time together in a very small group out of the spotlight.
3. Let them see the cracks in your life.
4. Let them know the pain and struggles that comes from being like you.
5. Show them the infrastructure behind the scenes.
6. Trust them with your identity.
7. Trust them with their project.
8. Bless them.
(Actually, there is only one way. Show them your life.)
Related posts on making disciples:
How to be like me. or you.
Discipleship is cafe-shaped conversations
Whose opinions should matter to you
Fans and disciples
My ebook on Making disciples
8 ways Jesus helped people learn
1. Finish one thing on your list.
2. Say “thank you” to two people.
3. Pick three words to give you focus for the next year.
4. Check four books out of the library that you will read in the next four weeks.
5. Take five minutes to write to a friend.
6. Buy or look at or touch six flowers.
7. Exercise in whatever way you can for seven minutes.
8. Spend eight minutes identifying what you did well in the last year: what you are proud of, what did get done, what you wish you could do more of, what conversation turned you around, what post made sense, what way you helped someone.
Minimum cost. Moderate time. Maximum impact.
Oh. And thanks for being part of my year. Your comments and counsel and challenges have helped me grow.
We’re all making lists. We’re all looking for three words, for next steps. We all know that we just need to start, that the first step is the most important, that finishing matters. We all know all those things. We all know how to find the tools to help.
Here are 8 questions to help you decide where in your life you want to apply those tools.
- What do I want to finish?
- What do I want to change?
- What do I want to maintain? (Sometimes you are actually doing fine about some things).
- What do I want to refine?
- What do I want to stop doing?
- What do I need to do, though wanting has nothing to do with it?
- What can I finally throw away?
- What do I want to go back to?
That’s how much of the year is gone.
Six months. Seems like years. Seems like days.
I decided to give the two of us a way to evaluate these six months. I hope it helps. Pour yourself a cup of coffee (or something) and sit on the deck and let’s reflect a bit.
1. I actually know more about these three people than I did 6 months ago.
________ ________ ________
1a. And here are three things I know about them.
2. If I add my blogs posts together, I have written this many words that wouldn’t otherwise be written: ______
3. Though I wish I’d done more, I have to admit that I’ve given this much _________ (time, money, stuff) to help other people.
4. Though it isn’t as much as I think it should be, I have talked to God _____________ times and I stopped to listen _____________ times.
5. I’ve read about ____ (#) topics. ___% of them had nothing to do with my job.
6. I have told _______ and _______ how much I care about them _______ times a ________ (day/week/year).
7. Six months ago I didn’t know how to __________ and now I do.
8. Though the list keeps growing, I have to admit that I’ve crossed at least ______ items off my to do list every _____ (day/week/month).
Bonus: Go back and write the numbers and phrases and people that you want to be able to list on December 30.
1. Sometimes it is okay to not write.
2. Sometimes it is okay to leave yourself out. (Just tell the story, not how you got there and why it matters so much to you.)
3. Sometimes you need to feel more before you write more. (Just put the draft away. Maybe readers need the mulled version rather than the immediate reaction.)
4. Sometimes it is okay to live parts of life unreported.
5. Brevity, though not obligatory, helps.
6. Sometimes it is easier to write the next post than the current post. (So start both and finish the second one.)
7. Sometimes your heart needs space to catch up with your life. Pay attention.
8. Sometimes you just need to start the tea. (That activity can jar your thinking)
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