Not the “getting things done lists.” Those are fine. Writing this post was on one of them. No, I’m talking about the lists, like this one, that tell us the simple steps to solve problems and to fix our lives.
1. Begin learning that there aren’t three ways or six ways or even 8 ways to find happiness. I saw a recipe book for s’mores the other day, included in a microwave s’mores-making appliance. If there is more than one recipe for s’mores (toast a marshmallow (how dark, what heat source, what flavor), put it on chocolate (milk or dark, expensive or cheap) (bottom, top, top and bottom) and a graham cracker (regular, lite, cinnamon, chocolate), there probably are more than 8 ways.
2. Remember that lists come from the worldview of the writer. If you can’t filter for that, you are going to get frustrated.
3. Lsts r cryptic.
4. Because lists simplify complexity, which, often, can and should be alleviated, but may be, at times, necessary to understand the shades of meaning and alternatives which can bring important insights, you need to look for paragraphs and pictures and dances to explore and express and none of those fit particularly well into the list format so learn to dance.
5. Engage in a conversation, non-linear, creative, interactional, conversation. It’s less efficient than a list, but may be more applicable to you. You know what I mean?
6. Understand that often, one or two of the items is either obvious or made up. You already know these two items, right? Do what you know before finding yet another list that given you yet another way to think that you don’t
What. You thought I’d have 8? Sorry. You want them? You write them.