Kids these days.

While driving home from a wedding a few years ago, our son Andrew and I were talking about a song on the radio. He started describing the video for the song, talking about why it worked well. He was pretty insightful.

I asked Andrew what he wanted to do.

Be in music somehow.

Like a producer? Like for records? Or for concerts?


He had no connections to any bands. He hadn’t been to many concerts. He didn’t hang out backstage anywhere. He doesn’t play anything. He doesn’t sing. He played the trumpet for four years, but quit in high school when he got braces. He’s not a big public guy. He’s pretty shy, pretty laid back. He’s the nice kid, the guy that is nice to have around. He’s the designated driver. He’s the “clean the bathroom at work after no one else would do it” guy.

That night in the car, he–and I–had no reason to believe that he would actually end up in the music business.

He has, however, learned how to make statements and ask questions.

“Can I interview you for an article?”- That got him a conversation with Jordan, a guy who is a band. And an article in the university paper. And an invitation to take pictures.

“This would make a great place for a concert!” – That was looking at a small gym by the concession stand he ran for the summer. That comment led to a concert for some indy local bands, with someone else acting as the show promoter.

“He didn’t get paid. It wasn’t fair.” – That was looking at how the money got distributed following the concert. His now friend Jordan didn’t get his share of the gate. The promoter took his money off the top.

So last Saturday night, Andrew bought a concert.

He made a list. He stuffed money into envelopes and took off for the venue. The money was from his own bank account. The posters and the photos and the distribution of the posters were from his camera and mac and car. The venue arrangements and sound and lights and food for the bands were from his phone and debit card. The bands were from Fort Wayne and LA.

And last Saturday night 180 kids showed up  and heard great music in a safe place.  Last Saturday night, the bands got what was promised and some extra. Last Saturday night, the venue got their full amount and got to sell some concessions. Last Saturday night, some people who helped got paid. Last Saturday night, Andrew put his money back into his account with a little extra.

And last Saturday night, a month before his 22nd birthday, Andrew did what he said he wanted to do when he grows up.

Kids these days. I just don’t know.They are so irresponsible sometimes.

(Did I mention I’m proud of my son?)



13 responses to “Kids these days.

  1. …and this Friday, a Dad told a story about last Saturday night…when a young man helped build my faith in his young generation.

    thanks Jon

  2. Great stuff – well done Andrew!

  3. “He didn’t get paid. It wasn’t fair.”

    Happens more often than not, sadly enough. I’m pretty proud of Andrew for making it different and helping to set a new standard.

    Music and the way musicians are treated is something close to my heart.

  4. I love this post on SO many levels.

    1. Way to go to your son on realizing music is important and way to often the artists get screwed out of the money they deserve.

    2. You are one proud pappa as you should be!

    3. Kudos to him for taking the initiative and drive and not asking for permission to follow his heart.

    4. I’m passionate about music so this hits home.

    So glad you wrote this post. So glad I read it. Hope my son grows up and chases his dreams as well.

  5. Erica – thank you!

  6. Joanna – 21 year olds are surprising, aren’t they.

  7. Chel – you do understand quite well. Thanks for stopping by.

  8. cc – it’s funny. I read this comment and went up to his room where he was
    talking with nancy about selling his camera. Hadn’t asked permission to buy
    it. Hadn’t asked permission to sell it.Has built, however, a pretty good
    sense of what is worth doing.

    Funny how that happens.

  9. You have every right to be proud–what a great young man!

  10. I really wish Andrew was out here. The shows we’ve been having are cool and all, but I feel like we (as bands) have to deal with ticks and leeches.

    Our second gig, we got $20 and the promoter/venue got $90. There’s four of us in the band. =/

    Anyway, yeah, Andrew’s awesome and you’re awesome for not holding him back.

  11. And did you then have to use your $5 for the food backstage? Thanks, Bryan.

  12. I like that he’s doing what he wants to do when he ‘grows up’ as if getting old would make it more possible.