college visit

We spent yesterday on a college visit. Hope is a high school junior and is starting to think more seriously about how to answer the question, “So what are you going to do after you graduate?”

Until two weeks ago, she was pretty uninterested in the school we visited. She has known about it forever. She thought about it at one point. But whether through (negatively reacting to) peer pressure or proximity to home or  something, she had moved it off her list. Until two weeks ago.

She got a recruitment call from the school, a call that Nancy didn’t want to pass on, a call that Hope didn’t want to take. But she answered and listened. And found out that they have the major, newly added, that is of great interest to her.

And so we went yesterday, Nancy and Hope and I. We listened to admissions counselors. We  talked with faculty. We toured the campus. We talked to a couple people that I know on that campus. We ate supper at Chili’s and she read “The Great Gatsby” while we waited for our order. We stayed for our first Gilbert and Sullivan (“Pirates of Penzance”). We got home 19 hours after we left.

Because she has the right to change her mind (because she’s a person), I have intentionally not linked to that campus or told you the major.  But what is so intriguing to me is this:

She almost didn’t take the call because she thought she knew what the message would be.

That conversation may have changed her life, established a direction for her future. But that conversation, that piece of information, that thing that she didn’t know, almost didn’t get through.

I’m thinking that there are way too many times that we are absolutely convinced that we aren’t interested in what someone is talking about because we “know” what they will say. We “know” what going there would mean, how choosing that would ruin our lives, how that place would be no fun. We almost miss out on the very thing that will allow us to be transformed, to be completed…because we don’t want to take that call, to hear what that voice has to say.

I’ll keep you posted on the college thing. After all, we have 18 months. In the mean time, if the phone rings, you may want to at least listen.

7 responses to “college visit

  1. Did this take place on Long Island by any chance?

  2. no, sorry. Midwest.

  3. Our “phone call” has come recently through the request of the resident high schooler to transition from our home school to public high school. I know there was a day I would likely not have “taken the call”–but I’m glad God has worked on me enough in the past few years so that I at least was willing to “pick up the phone.” Now….well, we’re waiting for another call (We’ve had numerous conversations in the intervening weeks since the first one…).

  4. thanks, amy. Your willingness in that one is a huge step to consider not doing what has been for you the right and good thing to do up to this point.

  5. I am so intrigued by this post and the individual recruiting from this institution, we – meaning my daughter and I are also on this very same journey – albeit we didn’t get a call. I just think the fact that your daughter did is very cool. I am experiencing an actual earnest from my daughter
    ( finally ) in this process and find it delightful as it unfolds. We too are looking in the midwest.

  6. Mother Earth – what is interesting for me is that they are using a script, obviously, and yet it is a real college student doing the talking, conveying real interest. If whoever you are looking at doesn’t call sometime, slap ’em. Seriously.

  7. I did schedule a tour today and got one zippy student on the phone, her enthusiasm was postively infectious and she didn’t need a script she was into it all on her own! My son need an 8 minute video – he was in!! I said excuse me, you realize they lured you in with fancy marketing?He’s never been happier! I never even visited the college I chose, it was a brochure and anyone who would have me. I got in on the
    “chance” program ( female, low test scores and candadien ) I was nothing but a demographic. Did the chance program serve my needs? Nope. I lasted one year. Oh well!

    Hey Jon – you by chance attending SOBCON08? It sure would be great to meet you. If your considering it gosh let Liz know I encouraged you, I’m collecting gold stars!