I’m trying to figure out answers to the following questions.
- What counts as a relationship?
- What counts as relationship?
- What counts as friendship?
- What counts as disciplemaking?
- What counts as enough?
- What counts as church?
- What counts as work?
- What counts as significant?
- What counts as consistent?
- What counts as planning?
- What counts as prayer?
- What counts as communication?
- What counts as an office?
- What counts as touching?
- What counts as meaningful?
- What counts as effective?
- What counts as caring?
- What counts as love?
- What counts as community?
- What counts as adequate?
- What counts as….counting?
Most often, these are questions that come up as I talk with other people who are trying to understand what to do with their time, their lives, their careers, their trials, their blogs, their energy. Sometimes these questions come up when I am sitting quietly in my office. Sometimes these questions never come up.
I know. This is a really cheap way to get a post: Make a list of questions and then walk away. But I’m not sure that it is. In fact, this could be a rather expensive way to post, particularly if we were to try to answer these questions.
What I know is that my response to these questions is almost always, “For whom?” And some people will list family, boss, spouse, community, friends. Some people will say, “well, for me.” And some people will say, “for God.”
Here is why the “For whom?” question is significant: What if the person matters? If you, for example really want to know the answer to the question, “what counts as love for my spouse?” won’t you pursue the answer not as an academic exercise but because you really want to understand what your spouse recognizes as love so that you can show love in that way?
If, on the other hand, the person doesn’t matter, or if you say, “I’m not really interested in an audience, I just want to know what counts as love?” then I have to wonder why we are wasting each other’s time and attention.
Or maybe you just need to talk with someone and coming up with questions is a way to stay in contact.
So what counts … for you?
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