So Aiden starts this game of tag for listing 7 songs we like. I tag Rick, and in the process, a conversation starts in the comments on this post that involves people from several states and countries…all because of listing some songs.
Rick has met all of us, and I’ve met all but one of us. But the meeting doesn’t seem to be the most important part, at least face-to-face. Read through the comments to see who relationship develops even in this one conversational swirl.
But why? Why are we so intrigued with interactions and why do we attempt to clarify what counts and what doesn’t, what is real and what isn’t?
Perhaps because we are built to relate and are built to name things and so we try to apply the one to the other. I spent four years in Goshen, Indiana at a mennonite institution, where people spent inordinate amounts of time trying to figure out who was related to whom. Most real mennonites could make connections to each other through BOTH parental lines. (Meanwhile, I was connected to no one, as there are very few swedish mennonites…and I’m not a mennonite). We want to know if we are connected, we want to know if we are on speaking terms, we want to know if we are okay.
Part of me wants to tell us to quit spending so much time analyzing the role of technology in relationship, the nature of our interactions. However, that’s been part of communication theory since communication theory existed.
(It was called rhetoric and I studied it. For example, in the early middle ages, people spent huge amount of time figuring out how to start a letter, as the precise wording of the “Dear John” decided whether the letter would be read…or whether the writer would continue to live.)
Part of me, however, knows that none of us would have much to write about if we couldn’t talk about relationship…and the talking provides the “something to do” while we find out about each other.
And part of me knows that the evidence of God in us is whether we can love those who really annoy us. And how will we find those people unless we interact?
So, how’s that for annoying?
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